It’s one of those hard truths that is easy to dismiss because, in our minds, there’s always an external force to blame—a toxic relationship, a difficult boss, societal pressures. Yet, this truth is painfully accurate.

My vulnerability didn't weaken me; it empowered me. And more importantly, it inspired others to embrace their own vulnerabilities and authenticity.

“YES! This is it! THIS is the wisdom of mankind and of my people! And THIS is the lesson we shall teach to all my subjects across my kingdom!”

In my decades-long leadership journey, one lesson has become unmistakably clear: personal integrity isn't just a buzzword; it's the foundation of effective leadership. I've learned this not from theories but from facing the challenges of leading teams in the real world.

As humans, we often fall prey to what I like to call "someday syndrome." It's this idea that right now isn't good enough, and that someday, things will magically fall into place.

There are times when I was feeling guilty for hitting the pause. However, I've come to realize that this is the part I don't want to miss. This is when the real magic happens.

We get up in the morning, clean up for work (at least pre-COVID), down some coffee, brace ourselves, and head out the door. It has become so routine we do not notice. In some ways, it started back in grade school… walking out the door with a mental “showtime!”. We slapped our game faces on and headed to school.

I just had some major dental work in Costa Rica and took all the novocaine they’d give me. I’m not as tough as I thought I was…

In relationships at work or at home, remember that assumptions remain in your own mind.  Explicit requests are spoken or written in detail. And most people will rise to the occasion if you give them the requirements and expectations.  

This organizational fundamental about learning something new is not just about getting new knowledge, but it’s about the mindset that allows for learning. Part of it says "Challenge yourself to take risks outside your comfort zone .... "

Your willingness to move through the pain and adversity will set you free into your ultimate expansion.

As a leader, it is imperative that you practice continual learning. Good leaders are good learners. You have demonstrated learned knowledge and skills in getting to a leadership position, but now is when you need to develop a laser focus on learning more.

How am I doing at living up to and fulfilling the terms of honoring the commitments I’ve made to myself?

I may have gotten a little more coachable over the years, but my default in hearing feedback is not to listen, but instead listen to the voice in my head that says,

“I KNOW THIS ALREADY.”

There are growing movements seen in tech, with designers, and leadership that are making consciousness a welcome “buzzword”. We are in an upswing where people are mindfully using technology, mindfulness practices, meditation, and experiences to not only expand their mind and well-being, but to also nurture their business.