How To Be This Happy: Ask for What You Want
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IN BUSINESS AND RELATIONSHIPS, EXPECT TO GET WHAT YOU ASK FOR
Expect to receive exactly what you ask for in both business and personal relationships. Anything more should be considered a bonus. Assuming people will exceed your explicit requests often leads to disappointment and frustration.
Imagine you have a project meeting at work. Everyone on the project attends, and you aim to create alignment on responsibilities for each team member. Do you assign specific tasks to Scott without giving him a deadline, assuming he understands “ASAP”?
HOW DOES THAT WORK OUT ON THE DELIVERY DATE?
How does this impact office relationships? Do you start to think Scott lacks urgency or isn't up to the task? Such assumptions can lead to negative perceptions that limit your team's performance. While “ASAP” might mean “immediately” to you, Scott could interpret it as “after I finish my current task.”
In both work and personal relationships, remember that assumptions remain unspoken. Explicit requests are clear and detailed. Most people will rise to the occasion if they understand the requirements and expectations.
TIPS FOR CLEAR COMMUNICATION
Be Specific: Clearly state what you need and when you need it. Instead of saying “ASAP,” provide an exact deadline.
Follow-Up: Check in with team members to ensure they understand their tasks and deadlines.
Encourage Questions: Create an environment where team members feel comfortable asking for clarification.
EMPOWERING YOUR TEAM TO DELIVER EXCEPTIONAL RESULTS
Even excellent employers and managers make the mistake of leaving instructions unintentionally vague. It’s valuable to have an outside perspective to identify when this happens. At Momentum Consulting, we call these “blind spots,” and once revealed, they can catalyze major improvements in collaboration, partnership, and efficiency.
If you’re not getting what you want, start by examining what you're asking for. Continuously strive to improve your communication. The good news is, it’s within your control.
Effective communication is key to successful business and personal relationships. By making explicit requests and avoiding assumptions, you empower your team and foster a more collaborative and efficient environment. Remember, clarity leads to success.
All my best,
Fundamental of the Week #3: SPEAK STRAIGHT, RESPECTFULLY
Address issues directly with those involved, even if it feels uncomfortable. Speak honestly, clearly and respectfully in a way that moves the action forward. Ask questions for clarity and share ideas. Check for understanding.
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